Friday, January 15, 2010

Homeschooling Moms

Have you ever noticed how very much we homeschoolers play down all that we do? I was filling out a survey yesterday where it said "what did you do yesterday?" Most of the people's answers were like, "got up, went to work, came home, ate dinner, watched TV, went to bed.."

Mine was like "did 4 loads of laundry, cleaned the whole house, did 2 days worth of schoolwork with both girls, an hour of working out plus walking 2 miles, made muffins....etc..."

We do a lot! In the whole working mom/stay at home mom debate, so many working moms seem to think that if we SAHM's can call what we do a full time job, then they can say they have TWO full time jobs because they work outside the home PLUS have the full time job of being a mom.

Now, I have lots of working mom friends and this is not to suggest that they are anything other than wonderful mothers...But in general....Working moms cannot claim 2 full time just doesn't fly with me...because for those 8 or 10 hours a day when they're at work and their kids are at school or at the daycare/babysitters, they're not on mom many dirty diapers did you change while you were at work? How many meals for little tummies did you fix? How many scraped knees did you bandage, how many spilled juices did you mop up, how many picture books did you read? Its not the same. While you are at work, someone else is acting as the main influence on your child's life. flash...if you and your kids are gone from the house 8 to 10 hours a day, I guarantee you don't have half the messes to clean up that SAHM's do...I mean, take whatever mess your kids make from 6 pm til they go to bed at, what, 9? OK, that's 3 multiply that mess times 4, and you get what we have to deal with every day. Not to mention that we're doing all sorts of messy things like painting and play-doh and letting 5 year olds make cookies...

I am NOT trying to knock working moms. A lot of women HAVE to work and do the absolute best they can with what they've got. But PLEASE do not try to make it seem like you TWICE the work we do because you work an outside job and then come home to be "mommy" for 3 or 4 hours a day.

Man, I don't know where that came from. I usually try to avoid these debates because they always end up going nowhere. But since most of the people who read this will be SAHM's as well, then I guess its just a little oomph of encouragement, a high five to us because we work our tails off with NO PAYCHECK to show for it, but I know that 20 years from now when our kids are grown and we're bouncing baby grandkids on our laps, that we will have NOTHING to regret, because we were there for our kids lives...their whole lives, we didn't miss anything, we didn't pass the buck to anyone else because we couldn't stand to be in the presence of our own children for a whole day. WE made good happy childhoods for our kids. WE made sure they learned what they needed to know, WE dried every tear, WE bandaged every scrape, WE were there for each amazing new discovery or skill learned. We were there.

"If motherhood is a full-time job, homeschooling must be the overtime!"


  1. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I'm a full time homeschooling, SAHM and end up babysitting some of my family members kids because I "get to stay at home." I'm so glad someone out there realizes what I do every day, and that I have their kids more than them!

  2. word. I don't homeschool but I'm a SAHM.



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